Challenges are a part of life. It is the way of life. It is the way you learn. The hurdles only get bigger with time. Since I was a child, my mother has protected me from everything. It is a mother’s instinct. No mother likes to see their child stressed out or hurt, so it is understandable. My father always made sure I faced challenges myself, whereas my mother would protect me from the smallest of things even such as a cockroach. If she wouldn’t have, I could have dealt with them as others do. Now it seems like a faraway dream (Date with a roach).
Children learn from their mistakes. They will fall, but they will learn to get up on their own with time. Spoon-feeding will only weaken their confidence. This one time, I was driving with my two brothers in the car, when a bike came out of nowhere. I panicked, but luckily nothing happened. But, I was shivering. One of my brothers told me, “Get down, let me drive”. But, the other wanted me to continue to drive because that is how I would gain back the confidence. What if my brother would have driven? I would have driven away my confidence too far. I probably would not have wanted to drive again. I even used this with Happy (my pet). He once slipped while climbing the stairs and was wary to climb the stairs again. I could have easily carried him up, but he wouldn’t have learnt. So I went up and after an hour he climbed up by himself because he wanted to see me.
If you always protect your child, they may become too dependent on you.But, let them know you are there for them. Life will keep throwing challenges our way. Help them become confident enough so that they can tackle them. A message to all the youth out there- Never give up.✊